Violet+Rye Do Nightline.

So, a few months ago, we were interviewed by ABC Nightline.

We debated it for a while, since we've turned down interview requests before, for the sake of anonymity. However, we were led to believe that this story would shed a positive light on MakeLoveNotPorn.tv and we could spread the good word about our involvement in it and why we've taken part.

MakeLoveNotPorn is Live, Open and Waiting!

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Making Love, Not Porn.

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A Brief Missive on Ladyporn and How I Really Feel About Bubble Baths.

After telling our few friends about our blog, not only were they terribly kind and supportive, but it also shifted our relationship dynamic to a point where we're now able to have hours-long conversations about sex. What we like. What we don't. How we feel about porn. Open relationships and threesomes. And why not? After all, that's what we do here, (and they've seen a LOT of us through the blog), so what's to hide? And we've gotta tell you, it's brutally refreshing to be able to have these discourses with people we hang with multiple times each week.

Also, sometimes it leads to you asking if they ever feel like getting some of this on paper and guest posting. And they send you this a mere few hours later. And it's brilliant. And honest. And hot. And funny. And REAL. We hope you enjoy this as much as we did.

Oh, and if you're anything like us, you're gonna read this and say, "MORE PLEASE, NOW!" So let's all refer to her as Red when we do make that request.

A Brief Missive on Ladyporn and How I Really Feel About Bubble Baths.

by Red.

Guys! I want to talk to you about a terrible word. I am sorry that this might hurt, and not in a good way, but it's sort of been following me a lot lately and I wanted to talk about it because Violet and Rye said I could. I want to talk about what it means when we say "ladyporn." 

It has its purposes, certainly. We all know that Rachael Rabbit White claimed this word last year for a celebration of real porn for real women. Or do we? Until I googled the word five minutes ago, I didn't. What I did know was that last month a popular website had a "Twitter party" wherein they encouraged followers to tweet their idea of ladyporn, which included some pretty edgy shit like bubble baths, red wine, and pictures of Ryan Gosling. I know, too that the word came up in conversations about whether the term "chick lit" described a valid literary genre. I know that people I actually respect have used that hashtag in reference to things they regard as romantic or guilty pleasures. People I respect less have used it to talk about Twilight.

You know the problem, sort of, framed through Violet and Rye's own post "The Good Porn Problem." You know it in a slicker, entrepreneurial mindset through Cindy Gallop and Make Love Not Porn. But there is this, too, this slightly separate problem of porn and women: what the hell are we talking about when we talk about porn, and how do we contextualize it? Like you, I want there to be places to go online and in the world where there's a distinction between "good porn" and "bad porn"; I want that content to be as curated to my tastes as the music, art, and lifestyle blogs and publications I frequent. But I also want to know that when I say the word "porn", I'm not talking about a romantic comedy or a bubble bath, and it terrifies me to think that those are dialogues being created by women, who are unwittingly doing as much to create the gap between real sex and porn-as-we-know-it as the men who grow up thinking that sex is about coming on a woman's face.

What Our Friends Thought.

After much, much, much, MUCH fucking debate, we told some friends about this blog.

"That's fucking AWESOME."
"Why didn't you tell us sooner?"
"Fleshbot???"
"The fucking Hairpin???"

We've had this blog going for almost two years now. So the fact that not a single friend knew about it is pretty shocking, even to us. We actually assumed some of our friends knew about it. Between Camille Crimson, Fleshbot and Cindy Gallop all talking about us at points, it only made sense that a friend jerked it to a video of ours.

Apparently not.

Here's how it all went down:

Violet's Sex Diary: Part 2.

Part two of three, y'all! You went apeshit for the first one, so go on and dig in, perverts.

DAY FOUR:

Rye was out of town on business. This usually engages us in a fair amount of naked pictures being texted back and forth. He was so busy on this trip that it engaged me in watching a LOT of RuPaul's Drag Race and going to sleep.

Violet's Sex Diary: Part 1.

We love the Sex Diary series in New York Magazine so goddamn much. So, after reading them for so long, not to mention seeing other bloggers participate, we decided it was time to participate. So, here it is, Violet's Sex Diary. Featuring a whole lot of Rye. This is the first part in a three part series.

What? How do YOU diary?

The Desire Project.

Oh, duh. Of course we love this. Don't you? You probably already know about it. But, on the off-chance that you don't, please watch the below. The first five seconds alone are worth the whole click and make me laugh every time I watch it. Guys, I've watched it a lot.

That's What She Said: The Desire Project from That'sWhatSheSaid on Vimeo.

That’s What She Said is an ongoing documentary series created by Victoria Floethe and Kate Rose about "what women want and how they get it." I mean, every single time I watch one of these, I end up shouting, "YES! EXACTLY!" at least once.