"Just discovered your blog. It is awesome, and so very encouraging for this twenty-something who until recently thought you could have an outrageous sex life OR a wonderful loving relationship, but not both at the same time. Glad to say my lovely boyfriend has put that idea to rest.
My question is this: do you worry at all that you'll run out of awesome new sex to have? I didn't actually like sex until my current boyfriend, and we have done more new sexual things together than I thought was ever going to be possible. We're exploring things and enjoying the adventure, but I worry that by racing through our wishlists, there will come a time when even hanging upside down with hooks through our faces will seem boring.
What are your thoughts on that? I see that you two have wonderful sexual appetites and that you are clearly committed to exploring and developing your sex life - do you worry that you might one day reach the end of the sexual road?
Thanks for any help you can give!"So excited you found us and are enjoying the blog! Thanks so much for the kind words.
We had a similar smorgasbord of sex when we first got together and felt similar anxiety about its longevity. Here is the thing, the joy is in the reruns. Each time you do something you've done before, you get better at it, find something new about it that you like, etc. Also, it doesn't all have to be crazy! Sometimes the best sex we have is hungover, lazy, undiluted skin-on-skin.
The amazing thing about sex is that you only have to do what you want to, and you only have to do what feels good. When you're doing that over and over again with someone you really care about, it's bound to only get better!
Good luck on the adventure! Enjoy!
"...the joy is in the reruns..."
ReplyDeleteTruer (and more important) words have never been spoken. Here's the deal, there's only a finite number of positions, gadgets, venues, hell even external participants, that can be added before you have a "do-over"
Lather. Rinse. Repeat. The fun is in the lathering. And the rinsing. And especially in the repeating.
Hear hear! Glad you found this to be true, we certainly do.
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32 years old and happily married going into 8 years but have been fucking my lovely wife silly going into 14 years. We have had 3 sums, 4 sums, and gadgets galore to spice things up. After all these years, it's still just about us loving each other and really feeling each other. It never gets old as long as you are committed to truly enjoying it with who you are with.
ReplyDeleteThat's a seriously amazing and wonderful thing to hear, you guys! Thanks for chiming in and sharing with us. Here's to at least 14 more of the same!
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