How do I get my girlfriend to open up more sexually? Whenever I ask her if she has any fantasies or what turns her on, she replies "I don't know or I don't have any." This makes our sex really vanilla and plain. Any ideas to help us out?

First of all, sorry it took so long to respond to this one. We've been thinking on it for a while and struggling a bit with what to say here.

Ultimately, it sounds like you're stepping in the right direction by asking her about her fantasies and turn-ons. However, some people take more to step out of their shells. And some people are already out of those shells and are vanilla in the center. One way to find out which of those you've got on your hands is to let her know about your own kinks, fantasies and turn-ons.

You may have already done that, but by the phrasing of the question, it seems like maybe you're putting all the pressure on her to tell you and get you going. Flip it. Open up to her, see if she's willing to try out some of your fantasies. It's the only way to find out if you and your partner are a GGG couple or if there's more communication needed to get you to a better place.

Chances are, if you unload some of those fantasies on her and she finds them hot, or is at least willing to participate, it will allow her to feel more confident about opening up to you. And shit, it might even get the mind running, thinking of new things she wants to add to this kinky mix.

Try it and let us know!

Ask us anything. Make it filthy.